My one-year stint on a local Nigerian association

I was on the Board of Directors of a local Nigerian association (one of several in the city) for a year and two months and many of my fears about joining the Board came to pass: things were disorganized and every meeting started late. It got to a point where I would get a headache and be anxious before each Board meeting, so I resigned before completing my three-year term. Some of the red flags for me during my one year plus term: at one Board meeting, a couple of the Board members came to blows, every Board meeting involved members yelling at the top of their lungs (I did too: it got to the point where you had to yell to be heard and that is not good), it wasn’t unusual for someone to storm off in anger during a meeting, a third of the Board members resigned within … Continue reading

Save me from the male ego!

If you’ve been reading for a while you know that I haven’t had much success in the romance department. I thought I’d found love with a guy I started talking to long distance in late 2009 but that ended last year and sparked the Love and Learn series. Since then, things have not gone well with other guys I’ve talked to. Because I’m a chronic over-thinker, it has occurred to me that maybe I’m the problem. Since I’m the common denominator in those situations I need to examine my habits and patterns very carefully. I like to be straightforward, especially when it comes to romantic relationships, because I don’t ever want a guy to feel like a breakup came out of nowhere. I let him know how I am feeling, even if it could hurt his feelings (but not because I want to hurt his feelings—there is a difference!). So … Continue reading

Thankful: June 2013

June is my favourite month. First of all, it’s the month that summer starts and warm weather is always a huge plus when you live in my corner of Canada and deal with temperatures that can reach 40 degrees Celcius…below zero! And my birthday falls near the middle of the month so that’s also great. It’s the last Thursday of the month, so it’s time for June’s Thankful Thursday: I’m thankful for another year of life—I turned 34 on June 18! This gratefulness will never go away. A colleague was telling me last week that cancer took the life of the father of her brother’s best friend who committed suicide last year–two deaths within a year in the same family. There’s a lot of sadness in this world, a lot of people taken before their time (at least that’s what we think; God knows better). I’m thankful that I still … Continue reading

My sister’s wedding

I’m glad you enjoyed the recap of my sister’s engagement ceremony…so on to the wedding! I forgot a detail from the engagement: her shoe strap came undone while she was dancing into the hall and she just danced as if nothing was wrong. She was worried but only someone who knows her well would have noticed. In all, the engagement ceremony was about four or five hours long. The guests who came from out of town were driving back home and wanted to get home before dark, so they cleared out of the hall pretty quickly. Both sides of our family divided up the engagement offerings and transported it (and themselves) home. My sister, brother, cousins, and I headed back to the home we were staying at to get ready for the big day. When we got home from the engagement we changed into casual clothing and started working on … Continue reading

Thankful: May 2013

I’ve decided to start posting Thankful Thursdays on the last Thursday of the month…let’s see how long this lasts! I’m thankful: …for protection during my solo trip to Paris and London. …that my sister is adjusting well to life in Nigeria. She’s adjusted to the intermittent electricity and the occasional cockroach in a way that I doubt I could. Speaking of cockroaches, it annoys me so much that even a clean home can’t prevent those critters from finding their way in (or can it?). I hate bugs…I miss my sister because she used to kill bugs for me. :) …for the milestone that my youngest brother, Babatunde celebrated: on May 25 he turned 25. When your age and your day of the month you were born on are the same, they call that your champagne birthday here. It’s pretty incredible to think my parents’ youngest child is 25, that we’ve … Continue reading

My sister’s engagement ceremony

My sister has been married for almost two months and I still haven’t written about the engagement and wedding! I’ll start with the engagement today. We were staying in Akure and the wedding was in Ondo, so the original plan was to stay in a hotel in Ondo for a few days. But then family friends connected us with their relative who had a home in Ondo that she wasn’t using so we ended up renting that place instead. We arrived on a Thursday, the day before the engagement, and I think we spent the first hour of our stay running around and exclaiming over how lovely everything was. The house (or shall we say villa?) had an enormous generator that powered the many (too many?) air conditioners—we were in heaven! While we were busy chilling (literally and figuratively) in the villa, our parents were with other family members at … Continue reading