Goals and resolutions for 2018

Happy New Year! Thank God that we made it to 2018!

Eighteen has always been a special number for me because my birthday falls on the 18th (of June). Because of that, I’m claiming 2018 as my year (but we can share): no more playing, no more passive expectation! This is the only life (on earth) that I get and I owe it to myself to live it BIG, not for bragging rights but because I know that I’ll regret it if I do anything less than this.

I have a long history not following through on my resolutions and the reason I don’t follow through is I want freedom! I like doing what I want when I want to but I recently heard something that resonated with me: Discipline equals freedom. Jocko Willink claims that discipline is the key to the freedom we seek. So if I’m seeking freedom from a 9–5 job then I have to be disciplined in how I spend my time while at work (so that I don’t have to stay late catching up because I was slacking off) and I need to be disciplined in how I use my non-work hours (so I can build a profitable side business that can one day become my new way of life that will free me from a 9–5 job).

When I think of discipline I think of structure, and when I think of structure, I think of schedules and plans. These things weren’t my cup of tea in 2017 (or before) but we’re going to get cozy this year.

I’ve written out a schedule that looks reasonable on paper and I’m going to start executing it this week. The other thing I’ll be doing to make my goals work is reviewing them daily.

I have two kinds of goals this year: the goals I have control over and the ones that I don’t. My biggest goal for the year that I have complete control over is setting up a profitable side business, spending more time reading the bible, and eating food that I cook rather than resorting to takeout. A goal that I have less control over is (when I’ll be) reuniting with my husband.

I also have resolutions that are generic and intangible but so important to my mental health and self-esteem. I’m tired of not liking certain things about myself so I want to STOP:

  • being afraid
  • being uncertain
  • caring what people think about me
  • complaining
  • gossiping
  • having negative thoughts about others in my head
  • judging
  • making excuses

and be more:

  • confident about my decisions
  • courageous
  • decisive
  • disciplined
  • empathetic
  • focused
  • generous
  • loving towards everyone
  • organized

I’ll mess up while trying to be better but with daily review of the person I want to be I know I’ll see improvements over time.

Are you a resolution maker? Do you have some goals for 2018?

7 thoughts on “Goals and resolutions for 2018

  1. Yeah same with me I need structure to follow my goals and stop by 9-5. Structure that’s key. Happy new year and cheers to achieving your goals

    • Happy New Year, Firi! I wish you all the best in accomplishing your goals. We have to make structure work; no excuses! ?

  2. I don’t make resolutions, really. However, for this year, I have two:

    1. Not be so obsessive with my weight – why should I? I’m not overweight and I eat fairly healthful and workout five or six days a week. I should be fine.

    2. Accept things the way they go. If my husband and I don’t end up having children (our deadline is late November to mid-December of this year as that would mean a due date of late August/early September of 2019 – right around my 40th birthday), we would accept that we’d be child-free. It’s been a stressful five or so years, starting with the adoption process (failed) and now, surrogacy (three failed frozen embryo transfers (including one chemical pregnancy – an early miscarriage) so far). Anyone who knows me on social media and/or reads my blog knows that I’m fairly open about this and I should be open (even if it isn’t culturally acceptable – especially in my ancestral culture)! It’s the only way for societies to become more aware of this kind of situation. :)

    • Cynthia, I wish you and your husband all the best with your second resolution and a
      happy ending too—your experiences to date sounds stressful; may 2018 be a year of peace for you.

  3. I definitely need more structure and I need to be more disciplined.
    I’m going to draw up a schedule and God help me stick with it.

    • Happy New Year, Tomi! Amen: I pray that God helps you get that structure you want in your life!

      One thing that I’m going to keep in mind is to keep going even when I slip up, and not setbacks get me down.

  4. What an impressive list of resolutions … I need to tap into your energy !! My New Years resolution is simply to stop procrastinating and just get on with it??????.. whatever ‘it’ is … I can also do with less instagram in my life right now !!!

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