Jummy turns 35Oh yes, it happened: I turned thirty-five years old at exactly 1:22pm EST yesterday! I thank my parents for deciding that they wanted to be parents! I can’t thank them without thanking God because He is the creator and sustainer of life. On the topic of sustaining, just think of the things you’ve done without problem while others who do the same thing or even play it safe end up suffering seriously for it! It sounds dramatic but I have examples: a local man did a handstand in his family’s swimming pool, fell awkwardly, and is now a quadriplegic. I think of all the times I’ve randomly done handstands or cartwheels while camping and fallen without hurting myself. How often do we cross the street improperly (jaywalk) without paying much attention while others who cross at the right place are mowed down by a careless driver? I don’t want to be morbid but we’re not alive because we’re doing anything special; it’s God.

Sometimes when I look back on my life so far, I feel like I haven’t accomplished much, because there are specific things I want, that society expects us to attain by a certain age. Once you reach the age of thirty-five and are still single, people start thinking something must be wrong. If you’ve ever felt disappointed about dreams that haven’t yet come true, I wrote a post for us—spoiler alert: life doesn’t end because your dreams haven’t come true!

I was overwhelmed by the Facebook messages I received (far more than I usually get), the text messages, and phone calls. My mom always calls and sings Happy Birthday to me and my grandma called too! I was so touched that she remembered. My sister’s in-laws treat me as if I’m the one married to their son—it’s really nice. I also received an unexpected but heartwarming email from my cousin.

For the past three years I’ve decided not to work on my birthday, and it’s the best gift you can give yourself. My plan was to sleep in late and reflect on my life; I ended up waking up early, running errands, having a green smoothie, putting my hair into bantu knots for the first time because I wanted curls, having lunch, and watching a really good two-part Lifeclass (Oprah Winfrey Network) I had recorded of Bishop TD Jakes. It was so good and I have the notes to prove it—definitely fit the bill for the “reflect on your life” aspect of my plans!


I wrestled with my curls before meeting my mom, sister, and nephew for dinner at a seafood restaurant, where I discovered that crab legs are too much work—I prefer my food to be easy access, thank you very much! After dinner I had my favourite ice cream cake for dessert and tried to get enough of my adorable nephew—an impossible task!

There were moments that made my birthday special, like when I randomly checked the time and it was exactly 1:22pm (the time I was born), hearing from the brother that I have a strained relationship with, contact from unexpected people, and a surprise gift from my sister and nephew.

I have no idea what my 35th year will bring but I’m looking forward to it being the best year yet.

42 thoughts on “Thirty-five!

  1. Jummy, so happy you had a wonderful day with your family and yourself. I know exactly what you mean about the disapointment one may feel if certain expectations like marriage/children are not obtained by a certain age. Let’s continue to strive to enjoy life regardless of where we find ourselves, we get one shot and when it’s over it’s over.

    I pray you have many more fruitful, joyful and blessed years ahead.

    • Thank you, Highly Favored! I appreciate your wisdom and the aura of peace I sense in you. I love your advice and agree it’s the way to be.


    • Aww, thanks darling, and thanks for the blog entry too! I had a lovely day…and of course I say a big Amen to your kind wishes!

  2. Happy birthday to uuuuuuu (singing with my Celine Dion voice) *Coughs*…
    Wishing you all the great things you wish yourself and many more.Hope you had a swell time ?
    I’ll be waiting for a slice of that beauriful cake :)

    • LOL Nky…abeg send a recording o! ;)

      I had a lovely day and your slice of cake is on the way (though I’m sure you can make something just as splendid!).

      Thank you for commenting.

  3. Happy Birthday Jummy.Wish you long life and prosperity and I pray all your heart desires come true.Happy Happy Birthday.I am glad you enjoyed your day.Adeola,XXXXXX

  4. GNG…I wish you all the happiness and satisfaction in the world. I pray that God blesses you richly ( emotionally, spiritually and physically). I also pray that you grow each year in wisdom, secure in who you are and secure in the love God has for you. Amen

  5. Ooooh, birthdays!!! Happy Happy [belated] birthday!!! I don’t know you personally, but you have a kind heart and lovely spirit. I wish you all the best in your 35th year.

    P.S. I know it’s hard being over 30 and unmarried (I was there too, but didn’t care too much), but just go on living your life and having fun.

    • Thank you, Berry—I appreciate that! I agree fully that living your best life is a winning strategy—it’s certainly working for you!

  6. Awww Happy Birthday Jummy!!
    I loved reading your account of the day and it’s obvious you had a good one.. As they say, you can tell the progress of a thing by the way it starts.. I pray that the way you were ushered into your 35th year would be a mark of how the year would unfold – Celebrations, continuous reasons to thank God, overwhelming love from family and friends, pleasant surprises here and then, good food :-) , promotion and even more. May God bless you in a special way.

    We celebrate you specially on blogger because you have been such a huge blessing to so many people (including me) and you have made immense contributions to the community (eg NBA).. Many more great things ahead in Jesus name.
    Lots of love xx

    • Ayo, thank you for this. You have so much wisdom and goodness in you; I thank God for using you to minister to me and I appreciate your kind words and who you are—a true source of inspiration.

  7. Happy birthday in arrears to one of my favorite bloggers. You rock and your writing inspires. You truly are a blessing and humble. May your dreams come true in God’s perfect time.

    • You are very kind, mpb—thank you for your kind words! I’m humbled by the love and I say Amen to your wish. Thank you.

  8. I don’t know you personally, but I see the way you pour your heart out into these posts. Your thankful posts at the end of the month is something I always look forward to. I pray for you that your 35th shall be the beginning of blessings you have given up on receiving, favour that’s beyond ur understanding, grace, mercies and lots of happiness. Your thankful posts shall become longer.

    Happy birthday to you.

    • Thank you so much, The Beautiful Eagle (just saw this comment and fished it out of the spam folder!). May God bless you too!

  9. I haven’t been to blogville (Is it stil called that?:)) in eons and I decided to do a blogroll for reasons best known to my mind.Clicking on your blog, I thought., hope she’s married now because girl, you are quite obsessed with the institution. The first post I decided to read still proves you are. Sigh.

    I do wish you all your hearts desires and really think you need to take chill pills on this marriage ish. Kilode?

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